Being Specific To The Universe In What You Want To Have In A Relationship

In society today, it’s highly noticed that people have a desire to bond and be loved in a relationship. Most likely, a lot of people have visions of what they want to have in a true relationship. Some people desire to have a close friendship with another person, others desire to begin with dating so that it can lead to marriage.

With these different desires, most people don’t know if it’s possible to ask what they want to have in a relationship. Can their possibly of asking the universe their desire become as a reality?
In why most people ask this in their mind, either because they have hurt so much by previous relationships in the past, or have been told that they shouldn’t deserve to have wealth, successful, or anything!

Or sometimes, some people have probably asked the universe, but wasn’t specific by what they want to have in a relationship, and it ended up in disappointment! This actually leads to why it’s so important to be specific to the universe of what one want to have in relationship.

For example, a person who says to the universe, “I desire to have a date in my life so that I can marry that individual! I want marriage now! I desire an individual who looks pretty! ”

Maybe days, months, or years later, that pretty individual shows up! At the beginning, it might seem exciting! Then too, that person begins to get to know that individual, he or she begins to be excited!

As the months pass by, the person wants to know that individual on the deeper level, but doesn’t want to open up and just want to take in the relationship! Most likely down the road, that person realizes and thinks, “Why did I meet this individual in the first place? That individual doesn’t match what I desire to have in a relationship! This individual is always a taker! I thought I asked for my desire! ”

Later on, the person is disappointed and hurt by relationship! It sometimes leads that person to cut off the previous individual and find somebody new in their life!

My own life story:

In my own life, I’ve had failed relationships in my past. This was in dating and friendships! But the area of where my failed relationships came from, it was trying to develop close friendships, which I was hurt and disappointed! I developed a very negative mindset from those previous relationships! I complained until the cows came home, which it was from past hurts!

Not long ago in 2010, I discovered about asking the universe of what you want in a relationship. I did that step, which is asked, believed, and received! These things from what I discovered in the book called “the secret” which changed my thinking and life! Today, I am more positive person now then years ago thanks the secret.

Besides, Even though I did those things, around March of 2010, I was in another close friendship. Yes, I got hurt, disappointed, and had to cut it off! Out of the mist of that relationship, I didn’t focus on my failure from that relationship! I started to learn from it , and get to the root of the problem so I can fix it!

In addition, I learned and strongly realized that I wasn’t being specific in details to the universe! My revelations is to first ask and be specific in details, after that focus on the joy of that person coming and what it will be like, and receive on what I want to have in a close friendship!

Right now, I put those things into effect so that the universe can bring it into manifestation! Even though some feelings of my previous relationship come up, but I don’t give it ground at all! I focus on the new right now! Even though that friend has not arrived yet, but I can still feel joy of it!

What do you mean by being specific in details?

For example, a person who speaks to the universe, “ I desire to have a close friendship with a person! I desire that individual! to not degrade me! A friend who will always call and be there for me! A friend whom I can connect with! A friend who have my best interest! A friend whom I can trust with my secrets! A friend whom I can trust, which that individual can trust also! A friend who I can tell any thing! A friend who is not trifling! A friend who doesn’t have a bad attitude! A friend who strives for humility! A friend who has a great heart! A friend who understands! A friend who can tell me everything!”

After being specific, make it your focus, you will feel joy at this! Rather you desire marriage, a close friendship, or a date; envision that it’s arrived!

Where your focus is at, that’s when your faith begins to be at work! It might take time to feel it, but it takes focus and act if you receive it now!

Therefore, the universe reacts to un-wavering faith and what a person strongly feels inwardly! In other words, you will get what you are feeling! What you feel is what you attract in your life!

Final word

It’s a great time to be specific to the universe and concentrate on the desire that you want to have in a relationship! Never believe that you won’t have a successful relationship, everything that’s impossible, is possible!

Thank you so much for reading this post!

Tyler J.Logan

This guest post was contributed by Tyler J. Logan who is the founder and owner of self-help enrichment, which his blog is at http://enlightened32.blogspot.com. He writes on personal development, self-help, and glimpses of life’s situations!

5 Effective Ways to Improve Attitude – RIGHT NOW!

All of us need a pick me up now and again. Things may not go our way or something negative may bring us down. It can be a challenge to stay positive among the ongoing challenges we face. Therefore, here are some tips to improve your attitude and be a more positive person – RIGHT NOW! These are steps you CAN take to create an immediate shift in your attitude. And if you practice some or all of these regularly, that positive attitude will begin to come more and more naturally to you.

1. Gratitude

Write a list of all of the things you are grateful for right now. This isn’t always an easy task when we have been depressed or negative for so long but there are always things to be grateful for whether it is that you have food to eat or limbs to move. For more lasting results, decide that everyday, you will make a note of at least one thing you are grateful for. Writing these down will have the added impact of providing a reference to look back on when your attitude needs a boost.

2. Everything Happens for a Reason

Everything, I mean EVERYTHING that happens, happens for a reason. If you begin to evaluate every situation that challenges you and look at how it could be a benefit rather than a detriment to you, you will begin to change your attitude. If you are stuck in traffic, perhaps it is because it is causing you to avoid an accident you may otherwise have had. If you lost a job, maybe it is because you couldn’t have a new opportunity present itself until you did, or maybe there is a valuable lesson you need to learn from that job loss. Every situation can be looked at from two perspectives, the positive and the negative. If you practice finding the positive reason for everything, you will change your attitude about everything.

3. RAKS – Random Acts of Kindness.

When we take time away from our own crappy negative attitude to do something nice for someone else, it can really improve our attitude immediately. Buy someone you don’t know a cup of coffee, smile to a stranger in line, send a complement to someone you care about, send a thank you card for excellent service received.

4. Exercise

I know this one sucks but it honestly has a major immediate response to a negative attitude. By getting our body to move, it releases chemicals in our brains that are much needed mood enhances. Even dancing counts so have some fun with it and dance to some great music right away!

5. Celebrate your successes

Think of all of the things you have been successful doing in your life. Just like the gratitude, you can start small, however, this is not the time to “ya, but” yourself. Take full credit for everything you have done and then celebrate! Really celebrate. Put on some great music, jump up and down, party like you just won the lottery! Success can come in many shapes and sizes from graduating from school, buying a house, starting a business to exercising today, eating healthy today, getting up on time today.

6. Watch, read or listen to someone inspiring

Seeing where others have come from helps us to realize that our lives aren’t so bad or that we can do it too. Find a favorite video or source of inspiration and watch it now for immediate attitude shift and regularly for permanent attitude shift.

7. Humor

Humor, much like exercise can cause the release of chemicals within our brains and help us to focus on something other than our negative attitude. Even the most humorless people can get benefit from laughing out loud.

We are all amazing individuals and have every right to have a positive attitude. These tips are easy to implement and can result in immediate benefits as well as foster lasting change. If more of us can have a positive attitude, the world will be a better place!

The Lost Secret of Think and Grow Rich

One of the most powerful principles hidden in the goldmine of knowledge called Think and Grow Rich is what I’ve named “The Pyramid Principle.” Now, I’m not talking about some mystical kind of pyramid power. And I’m not suggesting you go sleep in a pyramid or put a bunch of pyramids around your house or anything like that. No, this is a pyramid of some principles that will create incredible power.

The first chapter in Think and Grow Rich after the introduction contains the very first principle, and it’s the principle that Napoleon Hill calls “Desire.”

Hill taught that, “Desire is the beginning of all achievement.” In countless references throughout the book he describes it as a “white hot desire.” White hot!

That’s a term we don’t often see. But when he introduced the book in 1937 many people in the world were employed in these large factories where big kilns and big fires burned. A hot fire, the hottest fires-had a whitish color. Thus white hot!

So what he was trying to communicate in words of the day was that you needed to have the hottest desire that you could possibly create. That’s the first fundamental principle in whatever it is that you want to achieve.

The second principle of the pyramid also has a chapter named after it – Faith. Or, as some people might understand that term: Belief. Belief and Faith are first cousins. They basically mean the same thing.

Napoleon says Faith is the most powerful force on earth and you find references to that throughout all of the ancient wisdom. If you read the Christian Bible there is a passage in there about faith. It says that faith the size of a mustard seed is enough to move mountains. Since a mustard seed is a very small seed, the message is it doesn’t take much faith to do some amazing things.

He goes on to say that these first two principles, desire and faith, must be present to have any type of success at all. You’re not likely to move forward without both of those.

So you start with those two principles and then you add just one more. The principle of “Action” or what Hill calls “Decision.” With that the pyramid is complete and virtually anything you can imagine can be achieved by using its power.

Here’s how:

First, you use the principles in the order presented here:

(1) Desire (2) Faith (3) Action.

If you start trying to take action before desire, before faith is present, then you’re not going to act very long. In fact, your actions will be very weak because you won’t have a full commitment.

Now imagine a pyramid for a moment. On the bottom right hand of the base place the principle Desire. On the bottom left hand of the base place the principle Faith. And at the top of the pyramid place the principle Action.

Begin with Desire and once you’ve identified what it is, move to the left and begin working on your Faith in achieving that Desire. Now move to the top and take some Action — any kind of positive action toward your Desire.

And here’s why taking any kind of action is so important. After studying 25,000 failures he determined at the top of the list of their reasons for failure was the lack of decision, a lack of action.

But I’m sure you’ve also experienced as I have at times the feeling of inertia. So here’s a little secret for taking action. It’s based on Newton’s Law of Motion that you might remember from Science class. Newton found that a body at rest tends to remain at rest, while a body in motion tends to remain in motion. As long as you have inertia, you’re likely to continue with that inertia. But if you can create any kind of motion, any kind of action at all, you’re likely to continue in action.

So find some small action you can take toward your desire. Any kind of action counts. Maybe it’s just making an exploratory phone call or doing some web research.

That Action will produce some additional Desire (you move to the bottom right of the pyramid again) and you re-start the cycle. Each time you complete the cycle both your Faith and your Desire will grow. That’s why the Pyramid Principle is so powerful — it rapidly creates a “white hot desire.”

Once you get the Pyramid Principle started it takes on a life of it’s own. Each additional action feeds more desire. More desire feeds more belief. More belief feeds more action. And on and on.

That’s why it’s so powerful and that’s why this may be the most important “secret” to be discovered in Think and Grow Rich.

How to Turn Nothing Into Something

(Excerpted from the Jim Rohn Weekend Seminar-Excelling in the New Millennium)

Have you ever wondered how to turn nothing into something?

First, in order to turn nothing into something, you’ve got to start with some ideas and imagination.

Now, it might be hard to call ideas and imagination nothing; but how tangible are those ideas? That is a bit of a mystery. I don’t believe that ideas that can be turned into a hotel, ideas that can be turned into an enterprise, ideas that can be turned into a new vaccine or ideas that can be turned into some miracle product, should be called nothing. But tangibly, you have nothing.

Interesting! Think of it, ideas that become so powerful in your mind and in your consciousness that they seem real to you even before they become tangible. Imagination that is so strong, you can actually see it.

When I built my first home for my family in Idaho all those years ago, before I started construction, I would take my friends and associates out to the vacant property and give them a tour of the house. Is that possible? Is it possible to take someone on a tour through an imaginary house? And the answer is, “Yes, of course.” “Here is the 3 car garage,” I used to say, and my friends would look and say, “Yes, this garage will hold 3 cars.” I could really make it “live”. I would take them on a tour throughout the house… “Here is the fireplace, and look, this side is brick and the other side is stone.” I could make it so real… “Follow me through the rest of the house. Take a look through the picture window here in the kitchen, isn’t the view great?” One day, I made the house so real that one of my friends bumped his elbow on the fireplace. I mean, it was that real.

So, the first step of turning nothing into something is to imagine the possibilities. Imagine All of the possibilities. One of the reasons for seminars, sermons, lyrics from songs and testimonials of others is to give us an idea of the possibilities; to help us imagine and to see the potential.

Now here is the second step for turning nothing into something, you must Believe that what you imagine Is possible for you. Testimonials like, “If I can do it, you can do it.” often become a support to our belief. And we start believing. First we imagine it’s possible. Second, we start to believe that what’s possible is possible for us.

We might also believe because of our own testimonial. Here is what your testimonial might say, “If I did it once, I can do it again. If it happened for me before, it could very well happen again.” So we believe not only the testimonials of others who say, “If I can do it, you can do it. If I can change, you can change. If I can start with nothing, you can start with nothing. If I can turn it all around, you can turn it all around.” Then we also have the support of our own testimonial, if we’ve accomplished something before. “If we did it once, we can do it again. If we did it last year, we can do it this year.” So those two things together are very powerful. Now, we do not have actual substance yet, although it is very close.

Again, step one is to imagine the possibilities. Step two is to imagine that what is possible is possible for you. Here is what we call step two – faith to believe. In fact, one writer said this, “Faith is substance.” An interesting word, “substance”, the powerful ability to believe in the possibilities that are possible for you. If you have faith to believe… that faith is substance, substance meaning “a piece of the real.” Now it’s not “the real”, it’s not this podium, but it is so powerful that it is very close to being real and so the writer said, “The faith is a piece of, the substance of”. He then goes on to call it evidence, substance and evidence. It is difficult to call substance and evidence “nothing”. It is nothing in the sense that it cannot be seen except with the inner eye. You can’t get a hold of it because it isn’t Yet tangible. But it is possible to turn nothing, especially ideas and imaginations, into something if you believe that it is now possible for you. That substance and evidence becomes so powerful that it can now be turned into reality.

So the first step is to imagine what is possible, the second is to have the faith to believe that what is possible is possible for you. And now the third step is to that you go to work to make it real. You go to work to make it a hotel. You go to work to make it an enterprise. You go to work and make it good health. You go to work and make it an association. You go to work and make it a good marriage. You go to work and make it a movement; you make it tangible. You make it viable. You breathe life into it and then you construct it. That is such a unique and powerful ability for all of us human beings. Put this to work and start the miracle process today!

To Your Success,
Jim Rohn