Have you ever said “yes” to something, only to feel tightness in the pit of your stomach and wishing you had said “no” after all? And then found that saying yes has caused you more problem than if you had said no? And in the process you found out that you just lost your life motivation? You are not alone, because many people have too. Saying “yes” to things when it’s not what you really want can create a negative flow in your inner being. The resulting lose-lose scenario of unwilling “yes” can exhaust you mentally and waste your time. But most importantly, it distracts you from your life motivation.
Doing something that you don’t want to do is clearly a downfall of your real life motivation. Many people get the wrong idea that they ALWAYS HAVE to DO the things that people ask of them. Well, I must admit it brings certain happiness when you can do someone a favor. However, saying YES every time is not good at all.
Here are some life motivation tips that can help bring some clarity and enlightenment on your mental load when you want to say NO:
1. Remember that a day only has 24 hours, and that you also have other priorities. Saying yes to everything that comes your way will make it difficult do everything you want to accomplish in a quality manner. And you won’t have time for yourself in the process.
2. Don’t over complicate your life. Especially when you don’t need to. Don’t take on more than you can handle. Always make sure that you have enough time for everything.
3. Weigh the cost and the rewards. This technique is really helpful in any decision-making. Before saying yes, think of what you have to give and what you will get from doing it. This may sound selfish, but some situations call for this technique.
4. Follow your instincts. Don’t ignore yourself when it tells you its limits, because everyone has their boundaries. If you know that you can’t do it, don’t do it. Do not risk putting yourself into a situation where you are compromised.
5. Ask yourself: “Am I doing this out of guilt or fear?” when making a decision. You are not anyone’s slave. Therefore you should not feel guilty or fearful of anyone or any situation when you decline something.
6. Ask yourself: “Am I doing this out of social pressure?” Don’t do a task just to please people. Make yourself the priority. Because once you set aside yourself, you risk losing yourself completely. You lower your self-esteem and self-worth.
It takes courage and self-conditioning to get yourself comfortable in this paradigm shift especially if you have been used to giving way to others. So in doing these processes, remind yourself that you have control of your life and what you feel is important in any decision you make. You have all the abilities to say yes to everything, but you can also have the courage to say no to some.