Did you know that most people don’t make goals – but those that do swear by them?
Guess which ones feel more in charge of their life?
If you have been struggling, like I did for years, with the concept of making goals… how to find a balance between going with the flow and feeling on purpose… and then how to stay feeling positive despite outcomes that seem to be contradictory you may find a few clues here….
1. START WITH LITTLE GOALS AND BUILD UP –
If you feel a bit funny about trying goals try little ones first.
One of my first goal’s list included a new pair of jeans that looked good. That may sound funny but when I got them and the other stuff on that little wish list my confidence grew enough to try something a bit bigger till now, where I draw whole written pictures of how I would like my life to be. And my life often re-aligns itself to that picture very quickly!
2. WRITE THEM DOWN –
90% of people don’t write down their goals, but if you ask ANY of those who do they will tell you that writing them down is the key to achieving them.
Once they are written down they just seem to happen of their own volition. Intention is a powerful things and once we write down something we start to really mean it! I think the Team takes notice!
3. KEEP THEM CLEAR –
Spend some time getting really clear about what you want. What does it look like, feel like and how would life be different with it.
It’s good to make a time frame for it and to take time to think how it would contribute to the world – rather than just making your life better.
And as for goaling to win Gold Lotto, it doesn’t really work – what you want has to be achievable by you, not by Lady Luck!
4. IF YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT THEN GO FOR THE OPPOSITE OF WHAT YOU DON’T WANT –
Lots of people don’t do anything because they are not sure about what they really want. But they usually know what they don’t…. So, get clear about what is not working in your life.
For example; if you don’t like your job then figure out what you would like in a job; if you don’t like not being able to pay the bills then goal to pay the bills easily and on time; if you don’t like being alone make an intention to have a great companion.
You do need to be as clear as you can be. If you just ask for a great companion you may find a wonderful dog rocks up into your life. But then again, maybe that is perfect for right now!
5. TAKE ACTION –
You do need to take action and be open to opportunities once you set your goals. And that action is likely to take you outside your comfort zone.
That is another reason why people don’t like to set goals. But, if you really want that love interest you probably won’t find it without interacting with life. So find a way, anyway, to take action towards your goals. If it is scary just go slowly. Make sure each step is settled and feels good before taking the next. And before you know it things will have changed. And your comfort zone will be a great deal bigger.
6. STOP SIGNS, DETOURS AND GO SLOWS DON’T NECESSARILY MEAN DON’T DO IT –
It you are getting these you may need to re-assess, sometimes quite drastically, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that you can’t do it.
However, sometimes what we think we want may not be possible at this time. In this situation generally something better is around the corner – it just may not necessarily be something we think is better.
Regardless it’s good to remember that you are not being punished! Punishment is a very human characteristic. It is just us humans that have projected it onto some omnipresent being! Some things just take more time and patience than we want to spend.
The Native Americans knew this. A friend of mine told me about a dance they used to do each night around the campfire. It was called the Rabbit Dance and it consisted of a rhythmic two steps forwards one step back. It signified the process of life. Try it, once you get into the rhythm it feels very soothing. And that step back allows for consolidation and integration. And time for that comfort zone to expand!
7. STAY ON PURPOSE!
The Buddhists say that once you are on Dharma (finished your karmic obligations) then your self-interest will be challenged! I reckon this means that just because you are on purpose it doesn’t guarantee all will go smooth! So stay with the big picture and keep on keeping on.
By Gay Landeta. Sign up for his ezine or his blog at http://gaylandeta.com.au.
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